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The Profound Concept: Tears of Joy as Indicators of Love and Happiness

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“The rain is nature’s tears of joy”-Michael Bassey Johnson, in Night of a Thousand Thoughts.

Michael Bassey’s words beautifully describe nature’s way of expressing happiness when it rains.

After a long spell of sweltering heat, the summer raindrops provide some of the happiest moments to all those who have suffered the sunbeams. We humans, animals, and nature alike wait for this relief. And with those first few drops of rain, tears of joy flowed relentlessly.

Indicators of Love and Happiness

Tears of joy are considered indicators of abundant love and happiness.

It was a defining moment that introduced me to the profound concept of tears of joy. The setting was the seismic hotspot of Kutch district in Gujarat, India, where earthquakes are not just occurrences but a regular part of life.

The entire Kutch district is known for being a very high-risk seismic zone, and earth quakes occur there regularly. People here have witnessed some of the worst earth quakes, which resulted in entire towns and cities being razed to the ground.

We were taught the precautionary steps to take whenever we experienced earth quake tremors in school.

A significant earthquake struck early in January during my primary school days in Kutch. The tremors rattled our school building, leading to an evacuation to a safer place. Given the chaos enveloping the entire town, we couldn’t return home immediately.

With my father on hospital duty, my mother and our neighbours had evacuated their homes and assembled on the streets. Alone at home, my mom anxiously awaited news about my safety. Communication lines were severed, and mobile technology did not exist then.

The quake’s intensity caused widespread disruption and destruction throughout the city. Our school authorities wisely kept us safe until the tremors subsided, arranging transportation to drop us home only when it was safe to return.

Upon reaching home, my parents stood by the gate, their worries etched on their faces. Spotting me alighting from the bus, my mom rushed toward me, enveloping me in a tight hug. Then, I felt her tears streaming down — tears of joy. She couldn’t contain the overwhelming surge of relief and happiness.

The Types of Tears of Joy and Happiness

Crying, often associated with sorrow, also positively affects our well-being, helping us manage emotions and maintain emotional balance. Researchers have identified four distinct types of positive tears:

Affectionate Tears: My mom’s tears, triggered by our embrace, fell into this category. These tears emerge from an unexpected rush of gratitude and warmth.

Achievement Tears: Tears of triumph accompany accomplishing something significant or overcoming an obstacle.

Beauty Tears: Triggered by profound beauty, such as captivating music or a mesmerizing natural scene.

Amusement Tears: Shed when uncontrollable laughter is prompted by something incredibly amusing.

As C.S. Lewis aptly stated, “Joy is the serious business of heaven.”

Little did I know how intertwined joy and tears could become until a single moment etched its indelible mark on the canvas of my life.

Have you ever experienced a moment filled with joy that it spilt over into tears?

Chasing Happiness In A Year Of Challenges

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Have you ever felt that happiness has eluded you for an eternity?

I certainly experienced that sentiment in 2023.

As the year draws to a close, I took a moment to reflect on the lessons learned and the moments of joy amid the challenges.

The past year brought its share of hardships. My 94-year-old mother endured a collapsed disc, rendering her bedridden for months. Subsequently, a diagnosis of dementia added complexity to her care. Managing her increasing agitation has made the role of a caregiver even more daunting. Throughout this ordeal, feelings of loneliness and sadness enveloped me, as I found it heart-wrenching to witness her suffering.

On a personal note, I underwent health issues. Despite assurances that cataract surgery is routine and boasts a 99.9% success rate, I found myself in the 0.1% with complications to navigate. It made me question why I fell into that statistical minority.

Adding to the challenges, a dear friend received a lung cancer diagnosis, embarking on a grueling journey of radiation and chemotherapy. Observing her wrestle with this life-threatening illness has been emotionally taxing.

The negatives seemed to outweigh the positives in 2023.

Desperate to fill the void of happiness, I sought solace in various activities – immersing myself in social media, binge-watching TV serials, and indulging in online shopping. However, the happiness derived from these pursuits was fleeting, leaving me feeling stuck.

Happiness Or Pleasure

I came to realize that what I was achieving was pleasure, not happiness. Pleasure may offer momentary satisfaction, but it lacks the enduring quality of true happiness.

In my quest for inner peace amidst chaos, a quote by Tibetan teacher Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche struck a chord: “You don’t need to look for peace, calm, joy because when you look for them, they will disappear.” This revelation prompted me to reconsider my approach to happiness.

Life’s stressors were overwhelming, and the more I pursued happiness, the more elusive it became.

Learning Is The First Step To Seeking Happiness

The first step towards true happiness is learning. “Remember this, that very little is needed to make a happy life.” — Marcus Aurelius.

In times of stress, I turned to “The Art Of Happiness” by The Dalai Lama. The book emphasized that external sources like wealth, worldly pursuits, or physical health are not the pathways to happiness. Happiness transcends external stimuli and requires a rejection of negative emotions while embracing positive ones.

Unlocking inner happiness became a priority. “When things change inside you, things change around you.” — Unknown.

While understanding the principles was straightforward, implementing them demanded a mental shift. I had habitually perceived my circumstances negatively, necessitating a conscious effort to adopt a positive perspective and find inner happiness.

Actions taken to unlock my inner happiness:

  1. Compiled a list of positives from 2023, no matter how few.
  2. Recognized and utilized the healing power of nature by creating a balcony garden.
  3. Practiced gratitude by maintaining a gratitude jar, shifting focus from complaints to blessings.
  4. Prioritized self-care through early morning deep breathing exercises and Yoga.
  5. Cultivated a sense of self-worth, aiding in coping with adversities and gaining perspective on negatives.

Aristotle’s belief resonates: “True happiness has to do with ‘internal goods’…instead of those far too popular ‘external goods.’”

Realizing that true happiness lies in appreciating life’s simple blessings has been my paramount lesson from 2023.

Finding Balance In A Chaotic World

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Do I feel off balance today, or is something throwing me off? This is a question I frequently pose to myself, pondering what actions I can take to regain my equilibrium.

It has become a recurring occurrence, happening nearly three times a week, where I am in a state of imbalance.


As Dolly Parton astutely remarked, “Never become so absorbed in the pursuit of a livelihood that you neglect the creation of a life.”


Balance is a fundamental principle of life. However, in today’s ever-changing, volatile, and chaotic world, achieving this balance poses a significant challenge.


My typical routine involves planning my day the night before, yet more often than not, I find myself deviating from these plans. Last-minute requests for urgent work, unexpected errands, or emergencies constantly arise, disrupting my equilibrium.


A recent study conducted by Gallup in collaboration with the Wellbeing for Planet Earth Foundation revealed that one-third of individuals worldwide, equating to almost 2 billion people, feel that their lives are imbalanced.


Various Factors Contributing to Life Imbalance


In our environment, there is a prevailing sense of unrest and disturbance. While technology has brought the world closer together and eliminated boundaries, it has also eroded our core human values.


Intense competition, the never-ending pursuit of wealth and fame, and the desire for a life of comfort, all compounded by the pressure to portray an idealized self on social media, have contributed to the imbalance in our personal lives.


Research indicates that stress-ridden work environments, financial instability, increasing job insecurity, rapid urbanization, a decline in physical activity, and sedentary behaviours are all culprits behind significant health issues.


Conceiving Our Life as a Four-Wheeled Vehicle


Recently, as I prepared for a long road trip, I took my car to the garage for servicing. The mechanic strongly recommended wheel balancing, given the upcoming journey. He advised me to ensure the wheels were aligned correctly to minimize unexpected road bumps.


This experience made me contemplate how our lives can be likened to a four-wheeled vehicle.

When we visualize our lives as cars, we recognize the need for equilibrium on all four wheels. These four wheels represent Personal Life, Relationships, Work Life, and Social Contributions. Striking the right balance between these aspects can undoubtedly lead to a smoother and more enjoyable journey.

However, it is vital to acknowledge that, akin to a car, life may still encounter unanticipated bumps and curves. Being prepared, fostering resilience, and adapting when necessary are crucial for navigating such challenges effectively.

Key Points on Leading a Balanced Life as suggested by Deepak Chopra.

Deepak Chopra, a well-known author and speaker on holistic health and wellness, has provided numerous suggestions for leading a balanced life. While his recommendations encompass a wide range of topics, here are some key points that he has emphasized:

  1. Mindfulness and Meditation: Deepak Chopra often stresses the importance of mindfulness and meditation as tools for reducing stress, increasing self-awareness, and promoting mental clarity. Regular meditation practices help in achieving balance.
  2. Healthy Eating: He advocates for a balanced and nourishing diet. Consuming whole foods, emphasizing fruits and vegetables, and avoiding processed or unhealthy foods are key aspects of leading a balanced life.
  3. Regular Exercise: Incorporating physical activity into your daily routine is crucial for maintaining physical health and mental well-being. Regular exercise can help manage stress, improve mood, and enhance overall vitality.
  4. Stress Management: Deepak Chopra emphasizes the need to manage stress effectively. Techniques such as deep breathing, yoga, and mindfulness can help reduce stress levels.
  5. Quality Sleep: Prioritizing sleep is vital for physical and mental health. He often recommends establishing healthy sleep routines and adequate rest to support overall balance.
  6. Emotional Wellbeing: Nurturing emotional well-being is a significant component of leading a balanced life. This may include expressing emotions, fostering positive relationships, and engaging in joyful activities.
  7. Purpose and Meaning: Finding purpose and meaning in life can contribute to a sense of balance and fulfillment. Deepak Chopra encourages individuals to explore their passions, interests, and values to lead a more purposeful life.
  8. Spiritual Growth: Deepak Chopra often discusses the importance of spiritual growth to connect with one’s inner self and promote a sense of balance and harmony.
  9. Holistic Health: He emphasizes the holistic nature of health, where the mind, body, and spirit are interconnected. Addressing all aspects of health is essential for overall balance.
  10. Positive Affirmations and Intentions: Deepak Chopra recommends using positive affirmations and setting clear intentions to align your thoughts and actions with your goals and values.
  11. Community and Social Connections: Building and maintaining supportive relationships and connections with others is an essential part of leading a balanced life.
  12. Self-Care: Prioritizing self-care is critical. Taking time for relaxation, self-reflection, and personal growth can contribute to overall well-being.

Individual needs and circumstances can vary, so it’s valuable to explore and adapt these principles to your own life to create a personalized path toward balance and well-being.

From Struggles to Success: The Relationship Between Pain And Happiness

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“Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” – Haruki Murakami

This insightful quote resonates with ancient Buddhist wisdom and holds a profound truth. I’ve encountered its wisdom in my personal journey, and today, I witness its relevance when working with young leaders and individuals within the companies I consult for.

There is a relationship between pain and happiness. Be it in personal life or professional life.

My aspiration to become an engineer after graduating from school was fraught with challenges. Securing admission to my preferred college was an arduous endeavour, and even after achieving that milestone, I had to exert immense effort to enrol in the engineering branch of my choice.

My father, a source of enduring wisdom, instilled in me the belief that success doesn’t come easily. He often cited Winston Churchill’s words, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” This lesson has remained my guiding light throughout my life.

Many young people today dream of a thriving corporate career, a prestigious corner office, financial prosperity, and a harmonious work-life balance. However, they often underestimate the demanding journey that leads to such achievements. Failure to anticipate and address the challenges on this path can result in disappointment and depression.

Success and happiness in the professional realm necessitate a willingness to grapple with adversity, job uncertainties, setbacks, rejections, and, at times, toxic work environments or lengthy commutes. The rewards and contentment we seek are intrinsically connected to the difficulties we endure—a truth that cannot be ignored.

It’s akin to taking bitter medicine; only by doing so can we alleviate suffering and find the rewards we seek.

The Oak Tree In The Garden- Embracing Pain

Allow me to share a Zen story that underscores the importance of embracing suffering as an integral facet of life:

In a lush garden filled with an array of trees, flowers, and plants, a towering oak tree stood at the centre, exuding strength and grandeur. Many admired this oak tree for its imposing presence.

One day, a traveller passing through the garden took notice of the oak tree and approached it. He exclaimed, “You are undeniably a magnificent tree, standing tall and proud. You must be the happiest tree in this entire garden.”

The oak tree humbly responded, “I appreciate your kind words, but my happiness isn’t solely derived from my stature and strength. Over the course of my long existence, I’ve weathered countless storms, fierce winds, and harsh winters. I’ve endured the pain of broken branches, falling leaves, and the weight of snow and ice on my limbs. These very experiences have molded me into the tree you see before you.”

Perplexed, the traveller inquired, “But how can you claim to be happy after enduring so much suffering?”

The oak tree replied, “It is through these storms and struggles that I have grown stronger, developing deeper roots. It is through pain that I’ve acquired resilience. It is amidst the changing seasons that I’ve found peace and acceptance. Happiness, to me, is not the absence of suffering but the wisdom to discover joy and contentment amid life’s challenges.”

This Zen story poignantly illustrates that happiness is not the mere absence of pain and suffering but, instead, the capacity to unearth meaning, growth, and serenity amidst life’s tribulations.

The Energy Of Mindfulness for Embracing Pain

Practising mindfulness breathing can give us the inner strength to embrace pain and suffering. Thich Nhat Hanh, the renowned Zen Buddhist master, elucidates the art of finding happiness amid suffering in his book, “No Mud, No Lotus: The Art of Transforming Success.” This practical guide empowers us to tackle life’s problems, both minor and monumental, with equanimity.

Wrapping Up

In life, there are no rewards without risks, just as there is no destination without a journey. Isabel Allende aptly captures this sentiment: “There is no light without shadow, just as there is no happiness without pain.” Embracing pain and suffering as part of our journey is the path to true happiness and fulfilment.

Whispers Of Happiness-Discovering Pure Bliss In A Cooling Breeze

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“A perfect summer day is when the sun is shining, the breeze is blowing and mojito in your hand.”- Bar Refael

The above quote took me back to my cherished childhood memories. It evoked a sense of nostalgia as the gentle breeze whispered tales of the past.


When I recollect the perfect summer day during my childhood, I am transported to a time when the sun illuminated the sky, the cool breeze brushed against my skin, and a book found solace in my hands instead of a mojito.


During those blissful years, my father was stationed in Kutch, Gujarat, near the enchanting Rann of Kutch. Our house was in the Central Government Colony within the Kandla Port Trust township.
Our house had a vast garden and big neem trees in our backyard.


During summer, when I wanted to be alone and escape from my mom’s constant nagging to complete my homework, I sought refuge beneath the comforting shade of a colossal neem tree.


Nestling myself amidst its leafy sanctuary, I would lose myself in the captivating realms of storybooks.
I was very fond of reading and, after lunch, would always love to escape and take refuge under the tree with my book.


Occasionally, I completed my homework beneath its protective branches, basking in the tranquil ambience.


The cool breeze would be so soothing. Its soothing touch sometimes lulled me into a peaceful slumber.
Summers in Kutch are excruciatingly hot and humid, with temperatures reaching as high as 48 degrees Celsius and the heat scorching.


Under the tree, the shade was delightfully cool and refreshing, and no glare to hurt my eyes.The gentle rustling of leaves, the occasional chirping of birds, and the distant hum of nature’s chorus would form a soothing backdrop.


The fragrance of the Neem leaves added another layer to the experience, infusing the air with its distinct aroma, known for its refreshing and rejuvenating qualities.


The breeze that blows through a neem tree(Azadirachta indica) is supposed to be healthy. Neem has many good medicinal properties.


As I reflect upon those precious moments spent under the neem tree’s warm embrace, I am reminded of the simple joys of childhood.

Simple Joys Of Childhood

Some simple joys that I recollect include:

  • Running barefoot through the grass lawns ,feeling the tickling blades beneath my feet. I would love chasing the colourful butterflies.
  • Sitting under the neem tree on a hot sunny day with the cool breeze blowing, savoring the sweetness of ice-cream , each lick a moment of pure delight.
  • During playtime, giggling uncontrollably during hide and seek, the thrill of being found and finding others.
  • Planting seeds in the garden along with mom and watching them grow, feeling a sense of accomplishment and wonder.

Childhood is filled with these simple joys where the world seems full of magic and endless possibilities.