Why do people find it so difficult to work together- across organizations, cultures, sometimes even families. All of us know that to be effective at work, in any setting ,be it office, home , social gathering , politics, etc, we must collaborate with each other. The more people collaborate , significant relationships can be developed. With collaboration, more work gets done and important problems in society get resolved. It is not just about individual success, but when people work with each other, share ideas, influence each other, and collaborate , it is about team success. Results cannot be achieved in silos. However small be your task, you always have to work with someone to achieve it. Continue reading “Skill to Collaborate-so important ,yet so rare”
I once read a quote from Mark Twain in which he talks about a man being tarred, feathered, and run out of town as saying, “If it wasn’t for the honor of it all, I would have rather left town some other way.” This may be the sentiments of many first time managers when they realize the true nature of the manager’s job. Continue reading “Coaching for a First Time Manager”
A couple of months back, I had the opportunity to coach a leader, employed by a Global Software Organization. This individual was promoted by the company to be the new Business Head for India. He had grown through the ranks, had hands-on experience, was smart & innovative, and was considered a star in his business line. While he was a subject matter expert and well respected in the organization, he had major challenges when it came to networking and collaborating across boundaries. The organization had enrolled him for Leadership development program.
During the course of our coaching engagement, I tried to get insights about him from his stakeholders. While everyone said he was the go-to person for any information on the business, people unanimously talked about the need to improve his networking & collaboration skills.
The organization had sponsored him to attend leadership development programs that would have helped him hone his collaboration skills, but the change was not visible and his 360 feedback suggested that he still had a long way to go
What happened, in this case, was nothing new. There would be innumerable examples of similar nature, where Leadership development and training programs fail to create the impact and learning ,that are expected .
HR had probably done their job, by enrolling him in a Leadership development program. But there was very little time invested by the leader himself, in ensuring that he practiced the concepts that he had learned in these programs. Clearly ,he was a passenger and was not in the driver seat while riding the vehicle of his development journey.
Marshall Goldsmith has commented, “Many of our leadership programs are based on the faulty assumption that if we show people what to do, they can automatically do it.”
What is missing is the motivation to change, a self-limiting belief that is holding them back or a false pride, that ends up sabotaging the development efforts.
My client was excited about his expanded role and firmly believed that he had all the skills required for him to be successful. He knew the business well, he was a subject matter expert, he had been in the organization for very long and therefore understood the culture, the dynamics and he did not see any reason to fail in his new role. He attended the leadership development programs because he thought it was a sign of honor and recognition. He met me a couple of times because his HR and his boss wanted him to be coached. His excitement and success so far had clearly blinded him and he did not realize that he was setting himself for failure. He was getting caught up in the day-to-day demands of his job and was losing sight of the bigger picture and stakeholder expectations of his new and bigger role. He did not think it was necessary to adjust his leadership style ,to meet the demands of the bigger role.
I did not pursue the coaching engagement with him since he was clearly non-coachable.However, I learned a few lessons from this assignment,
- Development or change can only happen if the individual to be coached is self-motivated, willing to change and is committed to self-improvement. The Leader to be coached has to be in the driver seat and in full control of the development plan.
- Individuals are sometimes so lost in their own success that they fail to hear the perceptions of those around them.
- Overconfidence and ego, prevent leaders asking for help and listening to what the others are saying. Self-awareness is critical to success. Reminds me of an interesting video from Marshall Goldsmith about “Overcoming Ego”
- One trait that all of us need is humility, sans which, even if we have the best intentions of changing, we would never change.
“Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy” Issac Newton.
“Diplomacy is the art of letting somebody else have your way” David Frost Continue reading “Tact & Diplomacy at work”
Many leaders share this belief. They confuse the meaning of toughness and operate with the belief that effective leaders require being tough as nails to inspire respect. Their intimidating behavior tends to suppress their team members from expressing themselves freely and this, the leader than assumes as a sign of respect by the teams. What amazes me is that even if such leaders are decent people they tend to hide their true selves, projecting toughness and sending waves of fear through their teams. Such leaders like to be firm and distant from their people and them, unfortunately, believe that this keeps the teams on their toes and fear delivers the best results.