” We need to Talk” Difficult Conversation for the First time Manager



Have you in your experience heard the words, ” We need to Talk”

You have either said this to someone or someone has said this to you. In either case , these four words can be  stressful. Be it at work or at home , from your boss or your spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, these words always signal of expected change & transition.

I have  experienced butterflies in my stomach whenever I have heard these words. My mind would spin off in different directions and leave me thinking of all the negative stuff .

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Being kind isn’t part of the job description

Many leaders share this belief. They confuse the meaning of toughness and operate with the belief that effective leaders require being tough as nails to inspire respect. Their intimidating behavior tends to suppress their team members from expressing themselves freely and this, the leader than assumes as a sign of respect by the teams. What amazes me is that even if such leaders are decent people they tend to hide their true selves, projecting toughness and sending waves of fear through their teams. Such leaders like to be firm and distant from their people and them, unfortunately, believe that this keeps the teams on their toes and fear delivers the best results.

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