Chanakya Niti highlights the following six qualities for being successful.
Successful people never lament the decisions they have taken nor the time they have spent. They let go the baggage of the past. Remembering the past is futile.
Greed for Money
Money acquired through wrong means or by deceiving someone leads to a brutal end.Therefore never fascinate about power and money
Think deeply before speaking.Ask these 3 questions to oneself before making any decision to speak, What Do I Need To Do? What Will Be The Outcome? What Will Be Its Worth? Give full thought to each of your actions as it has an impact not just on our life but even of those around us.
Never jeopardize your stand. Chanakya explains a successful person, no matter how deeply in debt or suffering through a personal crisis, would never let display a hint in their actions or on their face. Never chase appreciation.
Remain focused on your work and success will follow.
Never underestimate the weak. While you are at the peak of your success and riding high, never ever ignore the weak person. It’s not wise to turn you back on weak because they always patiently wait for the right time to strike back.
In his book, “Man’s Search for Meaning,” Viktor Frankl describes the ability to choose one’s own attitude. He was separated from his own wife, mother, and father, and lost them all before the war ended.
But what did Frankl learn from his time in the concentration camp? Here’s what he said:
“Everything can be taken away from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances…”
My work as an executive coach and consultant gives me an opportunity to interact with different people. I find some individuals get along well with their colleagues and bosses, whereas, some find it hard to cope.
Individuals working on the same project achieve different results under similar circumstances. What separates the achievers from the losers? It is the attitude towards work. Attitude is everything.
“It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.” – William James
Attitude is everything
Attitude is a mindset and a belief system.
Our environments are overcrowded with individuals who exhibit toxic behaviors, negativity, lack of credibility and similar mindsets
Last week during a visit to a client’s office, I overheard a heated conversation in the lobby. One of the executives was venting his anger. The subject of the discussion was how the senior executives got passed over for a promotion. On checking with the HR Head, I got to know that the gentleman was not promoted because of his attitude. I wasn’t surprised. What I had seen in the lobby was a proof of it.
Charles Swindoll said,”life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it”.
He was referring to attitude. 90% of the time you are in charge of it
Types of Attitudes
Dr. Mabel Joshua-Amadi in her book”The Power of Attitude” writes about the different types of attitudes that people display. She has used Metaphors of birds to depict the different ten types.
Positive Attitude of the golden eagles
Negative attitude of the Hawk
Pitiful, Victim attitude of the nightingale
Fearful attitude of the Ostrich
Blase attitude of the peacock and parrot
Beaten attitude of the mournful dove
Commandant attitude of the rooster
Caring attitude of the hen
Critical attitude of the carrion crow
Can you identify your dominant attitude from the list?
Viktor Frankl in his book talks about how he survived the Holocaust and in those horrible days he held on to the ability to choose his attitude.
You can choose and change your mindset and belief no matter what! Have a mentor or a coach to help you navigate. Don’t let your attitude be a reason for your career derailment.
A Chinese philosopher Confucius said that ” Only the most intelligent and the most stupid do not change.
“The human race is a monotonous affair. Most people spend the greatest part of their time working to live, and what little freedom remains so fills them with fear that they seek out any and every means to be rid of it.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, The Sorrows of Young Werther
Somebody has rightly said “We’re living an era where capturing moments using our phones is more important than actually living these moments with whoever is beside us”
Striving for creating a well-appointed life, showcasing it on social media even if something like it does not exist, has become a trend. Is there something like a perfect life or is it a perception people have? Look at all the facebook post and all you would see happy smiling faces, beautiful travel destinations and people trying desperately to improve their image. It makes those that are less privileged feel envious when they start doing social comparisons.
Something similar was the case with my young friend Kusum. A brilliant individual, loving, caring and hard working. Kusum was passionate about her job. A graphic designer by profession, Kusum was enjoying every bit of her work. She grew up in an environment where having one square meal a day was always a challenge. She had seen those tough days and was thankful to her parents and the almighty for all that she had gained today.
But life never remains constant, it always evolves. Kusum started spending a considerable part of her time connecting with her friends, on facebook. This had started taking a toll on her performance. She was getting into a state of despair as envy changed to an intense desire to gain more in life. She was painting a picture of a perfect life. Looking at all those facebook posts, her perception of life & happiness had changed. Without her knowledge, she was becoming more materialistic. She knew she could not afford all the fancy stuff her friends had posted on facebook.
Kusum’s new ambition slowly started impacting her work. This led to depression and her job was at risk. Her parents were worried. Her boss was concerned about her performance at work. It was difficult to convince Kusum, that most people post highlights of their lives on facebook. Rarely people would talk about their trials and tribulations in life.
I had known Kusum from her college days. I was her mentor during her college days and her initial years at her job. She was brilliant in academics and completed her education on scholarship. Kusum continued to stay in touch with me, but of late had not heard from her. It was, thus, surprising when her manager called up requesting help for Kusum
To get her out of this phase, it was important I engage her into something which was more productive. She was constantly comparing herself with others and losing a sense of reality. In the first few conversations with her, it was clear that she was completely taken over by the facebook craze. Each time she wanted a break from her work, her fingers would click the facebook login. Kusum was reluctant to delete her facebook account. For her, that was the only way she could stay in touch with her friends and know what was happening in their lives.
Kusum was good at arts and crafts. I engaged her in activities that allowed her to leverage her love for crafts. I got her to think of becoming an entrepreneur. She had started researching on how to be an entrepreneur. During our evening walks, she would discuss some of her fears with me.
The time spent on facebook reduced. She was busy now with her new found passion of starting her design studio. .I introduced her to some of the NGO’s that worked in the creative field. Kusum started contributing and helping them. I helped her connect with entrepreneurs from whom she could get some useful guidance on how to start her entrepreneurial journey
It took some time to divert Kusum’s energy and focus on something that was useful. Had it not been for her boss and her parent’s timely intervention in getting her support, Kusum would have been a victim of depression.
Social Media distractions.
The key to remaining focused and staying away from social media distractions is to focus on your work and daily activities. It also calls for a lot of self-discipline.
Life is not always as beautiful as seen on facebook. Comparing and envying someone for posting beautiful pictures, makes life more stressful than beautiful. There is nothing called a perfect life. Don’t let the pressure from facebook post sway your thoughts and direction.
While it may not be possible to completely switch off from social media as it may have some professional usage, the amount of time spent on the sites can be within limits.
Be more “mindful” and in the moment. Do not allow digital distractions to sabotage your life and cause anxiety.
Walking away from facebook login, allowed Kusum to see a whole new view and look at opportunities that she had never explored before. She did connect with some of her facebook friends, but in person, over a cup of coffee. It allowed her to look at relationships in a new light.
“Be happy about your own life and you’ll be amazed at just how much more beautiful you’ll find it to be.” ― TemitOpe Ibrahim
I visited Bhuj-Kutch after almost four decades. Around 50kms from Bhuj are the busiest port cities, Gandhidham and Kandla. Kandla is the largest seaport in Kutch district of the State of Gujarat on the west coast of India.
My Childhood Days
The first 16 years of my life I had spent in these quiet cities. Life those days was peaceful, secure and free of any distractions. A lot of my childhood memories included my mother’s passion for maintaining well-manicured lawns and flowering garden. Her fabulous home cooked food, the aroma wafting through the entire house. My father is even to this day remembered for his devotion to his patients and to the medical profession.
A big playground in front of the house where I spent a considerable part of the evenings playing with friends. It was here, where I actually learned cycling. On the secure roads in the colony, my father gave me my driving lessons. Every corner of the house and its surroundings held countless memories.
Kutch -Art, Craft & Culture
Kutch is situated in the north of Gujarat state on the west coast of India. It is famous for its art and craft all over the world. People from diverse communities and castes live in Kutch
People in this part of Gujarat are humble, simple and affectionate. They are known for their simplicity, hard work, and their hospitality. There is a certain warmth in their communication and the way they would treat any visitor. Even after four decades, I saw no change in the culture and attitude of the people of this place. They would instantly connect with you and treat you as one of them.
Dust storms and the earthquake tremors is a normal way of life in this part of the country. But the most tragic earthquake which razed Bhuj and surrounding places and caused havoc was on the 26th January 2001. I had lost a few friends and acquaintances on that fateful day.
What I was seeing now was a rebuild Bhuj. Good accessible roads, clean villages, a model city with new buildings.
The Rann festival has put Kutch on the global map today. And you can see signs of that as you board the flight from Mumbai to Bhuj and most of your fellow travelers are the tourist from other countries.
While I was traveling to Gandhidham with the intention of attending the Golden Jubilee celebration of my school, I had planned to spend time with friends and visit the craft villages in & around Bhuj.
Unfortunately, I could spend only a day in Bhuj, but what I saw & experienced was amazing. My personal passion for art & craft overshadowed the fatigue that I felt having spent a large part of my three-day trip in traveling and visiting school friends during the School celebration.
Trip to the craft village of Kutch
Within the short time that I had at my disposal, I interacted with locals, craftsmen & weavers, founders of NGO. The NGO’s work towards upliftment of the craftswomen in these villages. They help in training them and supporting them to channelize their traditional skills for sustaining their craft & culture.
I was able to visit Bhujodi craft village, Hiralakshmi Memorial Crafts park, the Swaminarayan Temple and Madhapur Village. Madhapur Village is about 6kms from Bhuj. It is Asia’s richest village according to a survey and an article published in Time of India.
About 65% people of this village, mainly Patel’s, are NRI’s settled in Gulf, USA, UK & Africa.Despite their riches, the people of Madhapura are unassuming and lead a simple lifestyle
One striking thing is the humble and simple attitude of the village craftsman. They are good marketers and craftsmen, several of them honored by the President’s award. Many of them have extensively traveled all over the world, but at heart, they are simple folks.
I did shop for some of the exclusive products created by these craftsmen. Showcasing a few below. If you are interested in any of these products and need help, leave a comment below and I will be happy to help.
Frankly, you only need to visit these places, to experience it.
As aptly summed up by Sam Ewing-
“When you finally go back to your old hometown, you find it wasn’t the old home you missed but your childhood.” ~Sam Ewing